tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-622531281005872209.post5581544196814743174..comments2023-09-04T07:50:30.431-04:00Comments on The Writer's Kitchen: On Forgiveness, Part 3Evanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06763033650833418237noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-622531281005872209.post-10338151007966575922013-12-15T14:55:00.773-05:002013-12-15T14:55:00.773-05:00Hello Evan. A lot to digest. And I think a pers...Hello Evan. A lot to digest. And I think a persons personal place, mind set at the time, effects their response. I like how you are able to describe in words the feelings of compassion and sympathy. I often have PTs that are with drawing from drugs or drink. Their bodies are racked with psychical distress, and their minds totally lost in some horrible place, they are unable to deal with reality nor are they really in the world I am. I have great compassion for them, and often go to extra extremes to help them, even though I know very well everything I do is simply meaningless to them. It is not something they can process. <br /><br />I do not really have sympathy for them though. Not that I feel they are not a human in distress, I just know that they put themselves in that position, for what ever reason. <br /><br />I have acute sympathy for the PT who is suffering distress and pain from a surgery they had to have, and now doing know how to deal with the way the body reacts to injury and trauma, the pain and hurt of being cut into, and the embarrassment to have others not only do private functions for them they did for themselves, but to watch and be present while you do it. Hard to have dignity when your body betrays you and you poop in bed and people come in and clean you, often of a different gender than you are. Hard to go to the bathroom when someone is in the room and the only thing between you and the world is a closed curtain. There I not only have compassion but a lot of sympathy. <br /><br />I am not sure what to say about forgiveness. But as Randy wrote, I don't want to carry the burden of other peoples harm to me in my head, there is not enough space in there as it is. So I had to decide to put that burden down. I can not forget, sadly it is burned into my mind, every action and every smell and every taste. But I don't want to carry any more than I have to what someone else did. Does that make sense?<br /><br />Thank you for helping me deal with this issue of forgiveness. I enjoyed reading and trying my best to understand. many Hugs<br /><br />Scottiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06355524255020038817noreply@blogger.com